So what is it that makes us truly happy? From my experience, I believe it is whether or not we are living in alignment with our personal values. Society wants us to think that all happiness and joy comes from a huge bank account and all the fame and recognition. Well that might be true for some of us who are truly Money motivated and truly Recognition motivated, but it’s not the case for all of us. Many of our values include family, friendship, meaningful work, charity, and the list goes on and on.
If you find yourself being anxious or unhappy it may be time to look in the mirror and assess the situations in your life. Are you living in alignment with your core values?
So here’s the good news, if you’re feeling anxious, or you’re feeling stressed or unhappy, or perhaps you are showing signs of your misalignment through bodily illnesses or conditions, you can change how aligned you are rather quickly.
For some, yes it might be a career change which is a big thing, it might be changes in major relationships in your life which is also a big thing, but it could be as simple as cherishing time with a friend and going to get coffee together.
It could be having a heart to heart with your spouse and letting them know just how important a date night would be to you. It could be as easy as organizing your workday so that you can leave an hour earlier to watch your kid at soccer practice instead of putting in an hour of overtime. It could be taking a hike!
It could be honoring your personal self worth and asking a boss if you could work from home one day a week to alleviate a great deal of stress and at the same time improve your productivity. Perhaps, you realized that your children’s jam packed activity schedule is keeping you from (god forbid) doing an activity for yourself in the evenings such as a fitness or dance class. Consider having them cut back one activity if it means more time for you to pursue what makes you happy and/or spend time as a family.
If you value spending time in nature, it could be as simple as planting a flower garden or volunteering to take care of a community garden near you, or simply taking a walk at work over your lunch break.
Living in alignment with our true selves, our core values, doesn’t have to be as hard as we make it out to be sometimes. Following our bliss one day at a time, leads to being in tune with the desires of our heart, which leads us to be more cognizant of our intuition, and ultimately will help us move in the direction that is best for us.
If you find yourself stuck when figuring out what brings you joy, it could be one of two things. You could be blocking your intuition because it’s not the “convenient” answer. For example, you know that asking an old friend to lunch to clear the air about a past discrepancy would bring you peace, but your ego is preventing you from moving forward. Secondly, it may have been so long since you’ve thought about yourself… that starting a journaling or meditation practice would be beneficial to getting in touch with your inner desires again. Both of those practices have brought me a great deal of peace, focus, confidence, and as a bi-product of those, more joy in my day to day existence.
So sure, it might take more planning to make a major change, but it’s always possible. Living out of alignment for the sake of pleasing others isn’t worth it. At the end of the day, it’s your life, and you only have one shot. Are you going to spend it making others happy, or are you going to honor the calling of your heart, and move in the direction of joy and alignment?
Sending you so much love and encouragement,